Ever hear the saying ‘I wear my heart on my sleeve?’
It’s good to be open to love and open to falling for someone but while dating you should always remember to take things slowly, no matter how hard that may be. In the early stages of a relationship you are only seeing the ‘perfect’ side of the person, understandably, as they want to be the best version of themselves to impress you. But remember in the back of your head that not everyone is perfect and it is going to take at least a few weeks or usually months to see this person’s true colors.
Here are just a few of the reasons you should heed caution before falling in love too quickly:
1. Save yourself the heartache
Of course everyone should be open when meeting new people, that is the only way you are going to get to know somebody. Just don’t put all your eggs into one basket! Don’t feel guilty if you are dating a few people at once and seeing whom you connect with better. If you are dating one person and you seem to be more into it than they are, you are probably waiting around for their phone calls and the ability to control your anxiety starts to dwindle. It is a lot easier to step away from someone earlier than later; especially if they are not the only person you are investing your time into.
I don’t like to think of love like a business but when it comes to falling in love, and taking things slow, I like to compare it to building a business. Great things take time, and effort and if you aren’t willing to put that into a relationship it typically comes crumbling down. In business when we grow something too fast or make too much money, sustaining this sometimes becomes more difficult. Of course loves makes us feel amazing, we have great self-esteem, more confidence, and sometimes more motivation but it is important to build this slowly, because having all of this suddenly and then losing it can be emotionally painful.
3. Low Self-Esteem
Typically those who suffer from low self-esteem look for people or things outside of themselves to boost their confidence. Falling in love too fast and then it not working out will hurt your self-esteem even more. You feel hopeless, not wanted or needed, and you want nothing more than to stop feeling this way. It is important for you to begin looking inside yourself to find what makes you happy, and begin making changes in your life to increase this happiness without looking for it in somebody else.
4. Shows that you are Too Dependent
As we grow older we should always strive to be independent, and be able to be self-sufficient. As soon as we meet someone and feel an undeniable connection we should steer away from latching onto him or her too quickly. Go into the relationship using caution, and evaluating the situation before you jump into it head first. This is one of those dating rules you have to know before getting in the game.
5. There’s No Rush
Protect yourself and your heart when beginning a new relationship. Sometimes it feels like if you don’t take the next step in a new relationship then somehow you are failing. This kind of self-perpetuating relationship growth can rush things unnaturally. Stay confident, independent, and the right person will come into your life when you are first happy with yourself. If you’re having trouble finding someone then check one of the many big dating apps we reviewed, they’re doing wonders for everyone else! When things don’t work out, it’s okay to be sad, but don’t let yourself dwell on the situation, take it as a blessing that you are no longer wasting your time.